“Unexpected cards found in the mail brightened my spirit and improved my outlook. A close friend dropped off a coffee mug that says ‘you’ve got this.’ Three simple words on a coffee mug I used each morning kept me going.” –Jenny L.
- As with any difficult time, little pick-me-ups can have a big impact. When you’re going through something as personal and solitary as a divorce, just knowing people are thinking of you and rooting for you is a gift.
“Divorce is like grief—it isn’t a one-time event, it’s a long process.” –Cat H.
- Even once the ink is dry on the divorce papers, there’s still a lot of emotional distress and uncertainty. While it’s nice to be there for someone during the actual process, maintaining that caring connection in the months afterwards is important.
“The things I remember are the friends who didn’t ask why, they were just there for the ‘ugly cries’ and to pick me up off the floor when I would start to let the self-doubt emotions take over.” –Em B.
- Being there physically—to listen without judgment, to hug, to be a shoulder to cry on—can be such a comfort. A person going through divorce is separating from someone they once thought they’d spend the rest of their lives with, and it can make them feel very alone.
“For my first birthday as a divorced, single gal, my friends went all out with a celebration fit for a queen with a girls’ weekend getaway and a beautiful bouquet of flowers on the actual day.” –Jenny L.
- Divorce is hard, no doubt. But reasons to have some fun will be a welcome respite for many people who still want to experience the joys life and their relationships have to offer. Invite a friend out for an evening, host a movie night, or celebrate their special days in special ways.