If you don’t identify as LGBTQ+, you might wonder how to best communicate authentic love and celebration as an ally. What’s the best way to support and acknowledge the process of coming out? How do you uplift and encourage a loved one who’s transitioning?
Even if you are LGBTQ+, you might question what to write about identity. For example: As a cisgender LGBTQ+ person writing to a trans friend, how do you create a message that’s authentic and personal even if you don’t share their lived experience?
No matter who you are or what identities you hold, the goal is to know what’s going on in your LGBTQ+ loved one’s life, to empathize with their needs and to write from your heart.
Helpful tip: Part of getting the message right is learning specifics in LGBTQ+ community language. For example:
For more information and terms, you can check out the Human Rights Campaign.
- LGBTQ+ stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and other identities.
- Cisgender means someone’s gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth. (Source: HRC.org)
- An ally is someone who supports, celebrates and stands up for members of a marginalized group.